Childhood trauma can cast a long shadow over our lives, affecting our emotional, mental, and even physical well-being.
The scars left by these early experiences can shape our perceptions, relationships, and choices well into adulthood. Yet, it is possible to heal from childhood trauma, and doing so is not just important; it's essential for our overall well-being and personal growth.
I personally have recently healed my childhood trauma after cutting ties with my covert narcissistic schizophrenic mother.
I raised myself since 15 as she was deported to Mexico, came back illegally and made me work to provide for school clothes and even giving her gas money. She couldn't work since she was in the states illegally and I felt okay at the time to support her.
Fast forward 10 years later - I was still financially supporting her and dealing with the narcissistic abuse but always feeling guilt as she was my biological mother and I felt bad for her.
It wasn't till 2022 when I decided to get a therapist and uncovered I did have childhood trauma and it was bleeding into my adulthood. I realized it was time to cut the cords.
Narcissist will never admit their wrongs nor care if they hurt you in anyway. They can be poisonous and will keep you in a karmic cycle.
Cutting off my mother was a dramatic shift as her "scape goat" - she decided to retaliate with a smear campaign.
Walking away is powerful and bold as you know you are not looking back to the past. You have to deal with the judgement of your family members and friends. It's important to not let that affect you.
At the end of the day YOU matter and your family members don't know the whole truth.
My mission in life is to inspire others to heal their childhood trauma and see it as FUEL to propel them in their life's journey.
With God nothing is impossible.
In this blog post, we'll explore why healing childhood
trauma is vital, how to embark on this journey, and draw inspiration from both quotes and scripture.
Why Healing Childhood Trauma Is Important
1. Breaking the Cycle
"The only way to deal with the past is to understand that it can't be changed. But the future is a different story." - Anonymous
Childhood trauma can perpetuate cycles of pain and dysfunction in families. By healing our own wounds, we have the power to break this cycle and create a healthier environment for future generations.
2. Emotional Liberation
"He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." - Psalm 147:3(NIV)
Unresolved childhood trauma can result in emotional numbing or intense, uncontrollable emotions. Healing allows us to experience and manage our feelings in a healthy way, leading to emotional liberation.
3. Improved Relationships
"Forgive, and you will be forgiven." - Luke 6:37 (NIV)
Childhood trauma often impacts our ability to trust and form secure attachments. Healing enables us to forgive ourselves and others, fostering healthier relationships based on trust and empathy.
"The only journey is the one within." - Rainer Maria Rilke
Healing childhood trauma involves self-exploration and understanding. It can uncover hidden talents, passions, and a deeper sense of self, leading to personal growth and fulfillment.
How to Heal Childhood Trauma
1. Seek Professional Help
"Healing doesn't mean the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls our lives." - Akshay Dubey
A qualified therapist or counselor can provide essential guidance and support on your healing journey. They offer tools and techniques tailored to your specific needs.
Trauma can be stored in the body and its important to take action and heal yourself physically. This is one of my favorite yoga videos for releasing trauma.
You might cry FYI. It's that powerful.
2. Practice Self-Compassion
"Love your neighbor as yourself." - Mark 12:31 (NIV)
Treat yourself with the same compassion and kindness you'd extend to a friend. Self-compassion is a powerful tool for healing and self-acceptance.
Self-love isn't just treating yourself to a massage or shopping spree. The best practices at times are those that require you to spend time on solitude and learn more about what you're feeling and going through.
Boundaries are important.
Forgiving yourself as well.
3. Explore Mindfulness and Meditation
"Be still, and know that I am God." - Psalm 46:10 (NIV)
Mindfulness and meditation practices can help you stay grounded in the present moment, reducing the impact of past trauma on your daily life.
4. Build a Supportive Network
"Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor." - Ecclesiastes 4:9 (NIV)
Surround yourself with understanding and empathetic friends and family members who can offer emotional support and encouragement.
Healing childhood trauma is a transformative journey that holds the promise of liberation, personal growth, and improved relationships. It is a path to wholeness and a way to break the chains that bind us to our past.
As you embark on this journey, remember the wisdom of quotes and scripture, for they can be sources of strength and inspiration, guiding you toward a brighter future where your past no longer defines you.
The most important part of the journey to healing your childhood trauma is relying on God.
God will heal you.
When I prayed to Him to remove the toxic people in my life that didn't serve my highest self, I was at first devastated to find out my own mother and sibling were my biggest hidden enemies.
And after a year long battle of removing what and who didn't serve my highest good, I learned that and ending leads to a new beginning.
God reminded me of this passage in Ecclesiastes to remind me of the journey I chose:
”And I set my heart to seek and search out by wisdom concerning all that is done under heaven; this burdensome task God has given to the sons of man, by which they may be exercised. I have seen all the works that are done under the sun; and indeed, all is vanity and grasping for the wind. What is crooked cannot be made straight, And what is lacking cannot be numbered.
I communed with my heart, saying, “Look, I have attained greatness, and have gained more wisdom than all who were before me in Jerusalem. My heart has understood great wisdom and knowledge.”
And I set my heart to know wisdom and to know madness and folly. I perceived that this also is grasping for the wind. For in much wisdom is much grief, And he who increases knowledge increases sorrow.“
Ecclesiastes 1:13-18 NKJV
To attain wisdom once must increase in sorrow.
Through suffering we learn.
We evolve and grow.
The soul family that truly belongs in your life's journey will show up.
As I have embarked on my own journey with my significant other and planning for children this year - I realized a new covenant is being made.
After healing my generational karma and ancestral trauma - I am proud to be fully healed and ready to be a Mother.
Remember that it doesn't matter if you didn't have good parents for an example on good parenting. Learn what you do not want to become as a parent one day. And what matters is your healing and acknowledging that their behavior was not your fault and forgive them, regardless if they apologize or not.
Forgive them Father, for they know not what they do.
Go within to without. 🌹