A private life is a happy life. I wish I would have learned this in my early 20's. However, it was all a part of the beautiful life lessons we learn.
God is always intentional. He teaches us wisdom at the perfect time. Never have any regrets. They're all lessons.
Lessons we will learn when we stop repeating the same mistakes in them and "pass" the level of the video game.
Now at 28 years old, I am able to appreciate the value of my privacy without the associated guilt I used to feel about implementing it and drawing the line between hard boundaries to set.
A private life is a happy life lived because as the respect that you have for your own privacy increases, the drama, "bad luck" and BS in your life instantly decreases.
I have learned: I have never known an explanation that I owed
Now, here is what I wish I could have told my younger, way too over-giving and over-sharing self:
Your business is no one else's business. You will not recieve anything good that comes out of everyone knowing your business.
Power lies in retaining an element of mystery. Why? Because when you lack self-esteem and require external ego strokes and artichokes for breakfast - you give too much of yourself away. You allow others to feel like they can tell you who you are, and aren't. People will judge you then define you. Once they do it's hard for those lacking self-worth to deviate from this.
You don't owe anybody, anything. Stop treating every single human being and those who you don't know, like you owe them something. A show? A what? The only reason that you've become a subscriber to that belief is because you feel that you're not enough. So you attempt to compensate as a means to your ego's survival. Don't let your childhood trauma surface. You are more than enough, just as you are and will be. Everyone does not deserve the little details about your life. Treat them as a privilege for those to know. Because they should be.
Start living your aspirations out into reality.
Creating your dream life.
Just because it's not on your instagram story or post doesn't mean it isn't happening or has happened.
If you stop wasting your time on portraying yourself on the social media platforms, then maybe you can actually create what you want to see, in real life.
Main Character Energy
This is my motto since the beginning of 2023. This will remain my motto till my life is over and I've made it to the history books and pioneered my way through life. Leaving a legacy and saving humanity while doing so.
Stop being the supporting character in your own movie.
Be the protagonist and antagonist all in one.
Grow, Flow, and Glow Up.
Be the character who is consumed with world changing actions and tasks on the day to day that they are not wasting their time talking about the things they're going to do, someday, one day.
Make that day today.
A woman who retains mystery, doesn't engage in low vibrational gossip, quietly progresses, does her business in silence without a need for an audience till the time is right for her endeavors to be showcased.
Become a Proverbs 8 Wisdom Woman. There is a reason that is not a coincidence as to why Wisdom is referred to as She.
Proverbs 8:1–36 (ESV):
Does not wisdom call?
Does not understanding raise her voice?
2 On the heights beside the way,
at the crossroads she takes her stand;
3 beside the gates in front of the town,
at the entrance of the portals she cries aloud:
4 “To you, O men, I call,
and my cry is to the children of man.
5 O simple ones, learn prudence;
O fools, learn sense.
6 Hear, for I will speak noble things,
and from my lips will come what is right,
7 for my mouth will utter truth;
wickedness is an abomination to my lips.
8 All the words of my mouth are righteous;
there is nothing twisted or crooked in them.
9 They are all straight to him who understands,
and right to those who find knowledge.
10 Take my instruction instead of silver,
and knowledge rather than choice gold,
11 for wisdom is better than jewels,
and all that you may desire cannot compare with her.
12 “I, wisdom, dwell with prudence,
and I find knowledge and discretion.
13 The fear of the LORD is hatred of evil.
Pride and arrogance and the way of evil
and perverted speech I hate.
14 I have counsel and sound wisdom;
I have insight; I have strength.
15 By me kings reign,
and rulers decree what is just;
16 by me princes rule,
and nobles, all who govern justly.
17 I love those who love me,
and those who seek me diligently find me.
18 Riches and honor are with me,
enduring wealth and righteousness.
19 My fruit is better than gold, even fine gold,
and my yield than choice silver.
20 I walk in the way of righteousness,
in the paths of justice,
21 granting an inheritance to those who love me,
and filling their treasuries.
22 “The LORD possessed me at the beginning of his work,
the first of his acts of old.
23 Ages ago I was set up,
at the first, before the beginning of the earth.
24 When there were no depths I was brought forth,
when there were no springs abounding with water.
25 Before the mountains had been shaped,
before the hills, I was brought forth,
26 before he had made the earth with its fields,
or the first of the dust of the world.
27 When he established the heavens, I was there;
when he drew a circle on the face of the deep,
28 when he made firm the skies above,
when he established the fountains of the deep,
29 when he assigned to the sea its limit,
so that the waters might not transgress his command,
when he marked out the foundations of the earth,
30 then I was beside him, like a master workman,
and I was daily his delight,
rejoicing before him always,
31 rejoicing in his inhabited world
and delighting in the children of man.
32 “And now, O sons, listen to me:
blessed are those who keep my ways.
33 Hear instruction and be wise,
and do not neglect it.
34 Blessed is the one who listens to me,
watching daily at my gates,
waiting beside my doors.
35 For whoever finds me finds life
and obtains favor from the LORD,
36 but he who fails to find me injures himself;
all who hate me love death.”
For those who followed me on social platforms you may have noticed I have left. I've left social media till my businesses are executed effectively and I'll be back then.
Those that need to, you know where to reach me, if you don't - then you shouldn't be in the first place.
You can still follow me on YouTube here.
Stay wise, stay poised, stay in prayer.
Peace and blessings 🤍
